Beware the Victimization Trap

Posted on January 13, 2015 by Robert Ringer Comments (21)

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As every straight-thinking adult knows, a faulty belief system — i.e., a belief system based on false premises — leads to bad consequences. Perhaps the best example of this is a person who is caught up in the Victimization Trap.

It’s a trap that mentally paralyzes the afflicted person, because he comes to believe the deck has been stacked against him. Such a misguided individual tends to see himself as a helpless victim of an unjust world, which has the effect of removing the incentive to try to improve his life.

The disintegration of Western culture over the past half century has been the number-one culprit when it comes to encouraging people to harbor false premises that lead them into the Victimization Trap. All who embrace the self-destructive notion of victimization are doomed, at best, to mediocrity; at worst, total failure.

The Victimization Trap has been set by vote-hungry politicians, self-anointed crusade leaders, and shameless legal hucksters operating under the respectable-sounding label of “personal-injury attorney” or “civil-rights attorney.” These master truth twisters spread lies that appeal to our human frailties, negatively condition our minds, and lead us to accept false premises.

There are two major problems with victimization. First, it allows a person to harbor the poisonous belief that material gain without work is possible. Second, those who benefit from the Victimization Trap do so at the expense of others. (More on this later.)

In order to discover truth, you must first learn to love truth. You must love truth so much that you are willing to let go of cherished beliefs. Victimization is a mind-set that makes it especially easy to confuse truth with personal desires, and one’s desires must always be subordinated to truth.

 

The Magic of Semantics

In order to escape the Victimization Trap, it is helpful to back up a step and examine its roots. A human being is a creature of infinite desires, and it is quite normal to want to fulfill as many of those desires as possible. However, he is aware that merely telling people that he wants something is not likely to produce results.

To overcome this problem, it has become popular to claim that whatever one desires is a “need.” The transformation of a desire into a need is an integral component of the Victimization Trap. Need, of course, is a subjective word; i.e., it is but an opinion.

In reality, there is no such thing as an absolute need. I may think that I need a Rolls-Royce; you may think I need a bicycle. Neither of us is right or wrong; we merely have a difference of opinion.

However, my desire for a Rolls-Royce is an entirely different matter. There is no opinion involved. If I desire a Rolls-Royce, that’s my business. It only becomes your business if I arbitrarily decide that you have an obligation to buy it for me on the grounds that it’s a “need” and that I am therefore “entitled” to it.

The fact that I may call my desire for a Rolls-Royce a need is, of course, semantic nonsense. I may just as well call it a wart, because, regardless of what word I assign to it, I still have no moral right to force you to help me acquire it just because I happen to want it.

However, this camouflage is only the first step in the semantics game that is part and parcel to the Victimization Trap. The second step involves the clever elevation of “needs” to “rights.”

All Western cultures now accept the belief that every individual has a “right” to an education, a “right” to a “good” job, a “right” to a “living” wage, a “right” to a “decent” housing, a “right “ to “good” healthcare, a right to virtually anything that a person can establish as society’s obligation to him. This is in direct contrast to earlier times in America when most people believed that no one had a right to anything except life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.

Unfortunately, Western civilization has devolved to the point where the use of force and fraud can be easily justified on the grounds that such measures are necessary to make certain that people’s “rights” are not violated, i.e., to make certain their individual desires are fulfilled.

When all is said and done, this is precisely what politics is all about. H.L. Mencken summed it up perfectly when he described an election as “an advanced auction of stolen goods.”

The problem with the desires-to-needs-to-rights game is the same as I described earlier about the Victimization Trap in general: In order to fulfill the perceived rights of one person, another person’s right to his liberty must be violated, because any product or service that an individual may desire must be produced by someone else.

And if the product or service (or the money to purchase it) is taken from a productive individual against his will, then that individual’s rights have been sacrificed to the desires of the person who receives the largesse.

The increasing prevalence of the Victimization Trap has reached such grotesque proportions in Western society that it now accords the victim label to virtually everyone. And nothing deadens the soul quite like victimization, because it kills off the motivation to take action on one’s own behalf.

Now for the good news: The fact is that you don’t need a bushel full of artificial rights to get what you want in life. On the contrary, you can get everything you want — easier, faster, and in far greater abundance — without using government force to make others give it to you.

And, as a bonus, when you achieve success on your own merits, it gives you a sense of accomplishment and high self-esteem. If everyone were rewarded just for being alive, self-esteem would not be possible and life would have no purpose. Not a very attractive payoff, to say the least.

Robert Ringer

+Robert Ringer is an American icon whose unique insights into life have helped millions of readers worldwide. He is also the author of two New York Times #1 bestselling books, both of which have been listed by The New York Times among the 15 best-selling motivational books of all time.

21 responses to “Beware the Victimization Trap”

  1. CB White says:

    I appreciate this article and though I do not thank you enough for your wisdom I am doing so today.

  2. Ben says:

    You mentioned personal injury lawyers. Personally, I feel the vilification of personal injury lawyers is hurting our society (though mostly just the little people). Have you seen the documentary "Hot Coffee"?

    • Jean says:

      Ben
      Do you realize how much cost is embedded in the price of everything you purchase thanks to one person's lack of judgment combined with the machinations of a personal injury attorney? Think for a moment about those labels on every hair dryer manufactured that advise, "Do not use while sleeping." Think the cost to print and adhere those tags isn't passed on to the consumer? And how many consumers really REQUIRE that warning?

      Law is a business, and like every other business person, personal injury attorneys seek to maximize their earnings. Anyone who has been involved in law knows the pressure to create billable hours, and many firms impose quotas – just like sales quotas for used-car salesmen and those pesky door-to-door vacuum cleaner salespeople have. As a result, there are any number of attorneys willing to overlook the lack of common sense their client has exhibited and likely led to his or her mishap and throw the responsibility for preventing fools from being fools back onto a business. So, who really wins here? Stupidity is rewarded, and the more you reward anything, the more of it you get.

  3. Nan says:

    Brilliant once again Mr. Ringer.

  4. Marte says:

    The country has gone down a wrong road in its quest to put more and more and more people into victim status.

    The TRUE victims are the people who are working hard, being productive, asking for nothing for free, and having the fruits of their labor taken to give to those who merely have their hands out for more.

    I wonder if our idiot lawmakers have thought far enough ahead to see what will happen when everybody decides to quit working and just "be on the take." I doubt it. They only think ahead as far as the next election.

    • Ben says:

      Why do you think politicians are idiots? Why shouldn't they be focused on the next election? If that is what the voters want, then the voters are to blame. I saw someone on tv saying how his priority in the next election is fighting gay marriage. He looked like he couldn't afford a Big Mac. For me, politicians must be geniuses if they can convince voters that gay marriage should be their priority in life.

      • JRD says:

        And this makes them geniuses how? It just shows how little we think of our constitution and our rights.
        These are the ones who swore to uphold and defend our constitution as a condition of employment?
        We "need" professional politicians?

      • Jean says:

        You don't have to be a genius to be a con-man, Ben. You're confusing the two. A genius sees the big picture and takes a much longer view – that's exactly how the Japanese have surpassed Americans in terms of economic growth and manufacturing excellence. A con man is concerned only with what's around the next corner, what's following behind him, and how quickly he / she can score before the con implodes. That sounds more like your professional politician to me.

    • Stephan F says:

      @Marte

      This little axiom of yours needs to be chiseled into every monument in Wash DC. and recited in every school in the land:

      "The TRUE victims are the people who are working hard, being productive, asking for nothing for free, and having the fruits of their labor taken to give to those who merely have their hands out for more."

    • Right on! Exactly!You are someone who can think!

  5. Sean Baltz says:

    Ringer is a master at stating the ideas that both limit society and the truths that take the limits off of the individual who sincerely wants to better his life. Great writing!

  6. Serge says:

    A true sense of achievement comes from acknowledging ones success by setting the goal and using ones own time and resources, not other peoples or government. From that sense comes the excitement ,self-esteem and motivation to set more goals and accomplishments. From there, one can stand up and feel proud of the independence and maturity that have come from the dedication and determination in all that he has done. Now is the time to celebrate and enjoy the fruits of labor and achievement.

  7. Gordon says:

    To clarify, if someone else has to provide or pay for, it is not an inalienable right. Inalienable rights, by definition are endowed on all. No ne can give them or take them away.

  8. What we NEED is for Government to get out of the way! Libertarians have a better vision it seems to me. America increasingly feels like the Land of No, and that makes creative worker bees feel thwarted… and like "victims". The Government worker bees appear to be churning out no no's every waking minute. Is there any hope the trend will at some point be reversed? In any case, there have been novels written predicting our time… a time when everything becomes a..backwards!

  9. juanita says:

    Putting the idea victimization on a semantic level, taking advantage of each other in the role of friendships only. Stretching the idea of victimization loses credibility in argument. Onus is interpersonal relationships. Helplessness comes to mind when I found myself victim of somebody's ability to manipulate their needs when in the first place person created their own helpless situation. Roping friends and relatives into the drama that friends couldn't handle beyond their own personal lives. You can show a person where to go for help. And I was amazed how many people that involved me in their drama had no idea the areas that help was available other than just me.

  10. theczech says:

    In the 19th Century the French were perplexed as to why their revolution was so unlike the American revolution thus they dispatched Alexis de Tocqueville to visit and better understand the American experiment. In conducting research for his book "Democracy in America" he made some very interesting and profound observations. Among these findings was the fierce independence of American individuals; they would eschew government interference whether it be local or centralized. moreover, he observed that he had never witnessed a people so eager to form a guild, club, church etc., ostensibly for "good works." If Americans saw a need (victim) they usually had a [very] sic. local, voluntary organization to address that need. However, even the "victims" were reluctant, hesitant to accept help from others! Finally, Americans he noticed were "industrious" and resourceful, leaving little room for victim exploiters to maneuver. So, as RJR has admonished before; positive change with regard to Guilt – Arrogance – Victimization – Envy – Anger – Demonization will take place with individuals changing their minds, thinking – and not sociologically, politically or in the collective.

  11. Albert says:

    Robert, I couldn't agree with you more! What happens when the world harbors more victims than doers? I dare not think about it…

  12. Liz says:

    I agree with everything but the idea that it's not possible to "have material gain without work." There are many examples of heirs to fortune who did nothing but be born and then continue to do nothing but enjoy their fortune. I consider this a fact of life, in the same way that some are born with nothing or born without some basic physical or mental ability. Knowing this is true doesn't make me a victim anymore than does knowing I can't breathe water. It does affect my attitude because I have no use for the "entitled" whatever their fortune may be.

    • Jean says:

      Liz
      The average lifespan of a trust-fund baby's trust fund tends to be quite limited, if that trust-fund baby has no capacity to maintain or grow the pot. My sister was a trust attorney who worked with the first-generation wealthy. One of her functions was to create trusts that were idiot-proof, in order to thwart the idiotic and impulsive behavior that one or more of their kids exhibited. There's considerable truth in the the statement "Shirtsleeves to tuxedo and back to shirtsleeves in three generations." Those trust-funders like Donald Trump who inherited wealth and then GREW it are just as entitled to keep their wealth as the person who originally accumulated the seed money.

  13. Liz says:

    Your input supports my judgment if "first generation" earners take steps to protect wealth from being squandered after they're gone. Of course, an heir who increases that wealth is not discounted by my viewpoint but their industry in no way negates the unearned fortune they were born into. The individual human being with intention and diligence can excel in practically all circumstances but that doesn't change the nature of the circumstances. It's in the book, you know: Matthew 13: 3-8

  14. Daniel says:

    Though I can't explain exactly why, and though it was almost certainly unintended by you, when I read your fourth paragraph, the names Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton blared in my mind. Further, and likely another unintended result, it occurred to me that the label "reverend" could be used by shameless hucksters to give themselves legitimacy among their constituencies (victims). My brother-in-law is an ordained minister (reverend), too. He got his bona fides from a website that offers such things for a fee. He didn't study anything having to do with religion to get it; he just wanted it because it afforded certain privileges. Abbie Hoffman, in his book "Steal This Book", advocated becoming an ordained minister for much the same reasons. My brother-in-law is an interesting and bright fellow, but he's definitely not one to whom I would turn for spiritual advice. Makes one wonder where/how/why Jesse and Al got theirs.

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